Hope - I will pray for you through that hurricane! Maybe this is your opportunity to show your strength to your husband while you are with him during this time. Show him you can live on and act "as if" like we are all trying to do.
Star - Can you believe it? There is a place here in AZ that you can go to that will fill out the paperwork for a divorce and file it for you with the courts. You don't need a lawyer if it is a consentual agreement. Well he has another thing coming if he thinks I am just going to sign some document he had done at this place without me taking it to a lawyer or just getting a lawyer to protect myself! He is in la la land.... He has this OW and people around him filling him with this stuff. Its just crazy.
T2L - I know my H thinks I am filling my D with things about him since she won't talk to him but I made it clear that I was not. This is her decision and I have actually been encouraging her to talk to him because she needs to let her feelings, thoughts, and emotions out so that he knows what he has done and is doing at this moment in time.
Get this...he texts me today asking how much my health insurance is per month. I ask why and he says its to determine the child support amount. I tell him and end up saying a few things I probably shouldn't have but I did. Again he says it has nothing to do with her and that it is about us (sound familiar?). I told him everything he is doing IS because he is being controlled by her and that he can't see that right now but he will. I didn't cry at all while sending these messages. But I did say that what I have gained from all this is realizing how many people really love me and care about me and how I have come to truly appreciate everything in my life but most of all the love of my D that has carried me through this in the past and will carry me through this again.
Walk tall, talk strong, and be confident.
H kept asking me why I didn't just want to move on. I may be reading too much into it but why would he care at this point when he already filed.
Anyway! Today was a good day but tomorrow will be great!
Me35/H35 D16/SS14 M-1yr/known H 18yrs 1st Bomb: 4/26 OW35 2nd Bomb: 8/17 OW21 Moved out 8/21/08 H filed D on 9/9/08
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.
