I will get into the type of conversations we had later tonight about my mistake. However, a quick here is a quick update. My ex and her friend found a house they want and are going to apply for the loan and make an offer tomorrow. This evening I was with my ex, helping her get all the paperwork such as w2s, tax forms, bank statements, etc - so she will have that ready. Earlier today she called me up and was very excited about the house. I shared her enthusiasm and told her that I was so happy for her. We then started to discuss how she is going to arrange our daughter's room and gave her several ideas.
I have to admit, when I am talking to my ex about the new house she is about to get with her best friend, it hurts really deep. While I was sharing the joy with her when we were talking, I felt like this is going to be a very huge mountain to bring down. She is already telling me about how she wants to do this or that to the house and how she plans on being there a long time, etc. I know that her best friend and her are not romantically involved. They get on each others nerves too much as I have seen how they talk to each other on the phone somethings - but you never really know. My daughter is also attached to him so that does make it difficult. I think the fact that she has a place for our daughter to go to and the fact that the schools nearby are nice, is going to make it hard for her to want to come back - especially since the house is her dream home so to speak.
That said, I know that my ex is really stressing out about all the paper work and house buying process. I thought about making her a fruit salad and dropping it off at the day care for her to pick up for breakfast - along with a simply note such as good luck or something among does lines.
