Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

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Hello all, Jgrind your H sounds like mine. Lack of intimacy, not connecting for a long time, Inh, We had problems but I did not cheat. Pretty sad. When we go back (positive DB), I want many positive changes. Will NEVER go back to the way it was. I have been doing inventory and it makes me sad because there was so much I could have done better, all the little things, that I do not think I would be in this position today.
T2L, what a phone message, yes save it so the next time you are feeling down play it. That would do it for me. What was he thinking. I would just tell S he called and you erased it by mistake so at least he knows.
I am dreading the next few weeks. after last night I feel pretty low. But today I have to be strong. We are making hurricane preparations. We have been here almost 2 years and H never checked out the plywood to see if it would fit and the screw are all wrong. He cannot handle anything with home projects except maybe electrical. He is at home depot as I write this. My D and myself took the plywood from the front and matched what windows and doors we could. The problem is that the back some of the plywood is too big. I want to show him I am strong and independent. Any prayers coming my way that his future furnished apt will get blown away in the storm? A joke?
If we have to leave I have to spend the next 2 nights in San Antonio with H, D, dog at hotel. I think the OW is going there also. He asked if we should take 2 cars? For what rendevous with Ow?? My mind is going today. They say God will not give you more than you can take, I think he is testing me today. I would rather deal with any hurricane than my M falling apart like this.
Need some ideas also. How should I handle the apt thing? Should I be friendly and go see it with D or should I totally stay back. I don't want him to think I agree but should I act like I am interested as a DB effort? It really aggravates me that when I go for my therapy walk every night I have to pass these apts! Yikes!!! What a week for all. Glad we all found each other on this thread...seriously.
Keep the faith...