Hmmmmm I lied about the extent of the affair. It had developed into a PA which I did not admit until March/April this year. H always felt he did not have the truth and he dug and dug and dug until he came up with ( funnily enough ) with what he thought was proof on;y he was way off the mark. He was right but proof was wrong.
This is why there was a lot of back and forth in the house. I came clean because it dawned on me that my reason for telling him ( did not want to hurt him ) were stupid. The lies were hurting. I told him because
1. By not telling I was harbouring a dirty little secret with OM. So a tie still to him. 2. I did not want him feeling a fool if it ever came out from OM. I wanted H to be armed with all the right information. 3.I needed to feel better and i did.
I am sure there is no one else as there is not time as he has joined all these new activities - gym , sailing, looking after himself, badminton etc etc
