It seems to be working! Sometimes....

[sandycay]

Well,

Today marks the 4th month of us committing to making this work. Four months ago he made that phone call to her to end it all. There have been no waivers from him and our communication is at an all time high.

It seems that I have moved past the stage where i was a few weeks ago...obsessing about OW. Now, it's still there and this is a process so patience is a virtue. We seem to be doing very well....we both agree, as does our marriage counselor. WE are actually going to go 6 weeks without seeing him if we can.

I am a little nervous as he just left to go out of the country for 3 1/2 weeks. He has done nothing to make me feel that way, I just do. In my heart, I know this should not happen again. But, the grey matter always seeps thru with it's wonderful negativity to shake me up a bit.

I sent him off in great DB style....instead of showing him how scared and upset I was....I sent him with a smile and all the love I could muster. He knew I was sad that he was leaving but I didn't make him feel guilty about having to go this time. Big 180 for me. I used to get envious about his frequent trips and me always left here....DUH he has to work to pay for all this.

I snuck a few cards in his suitcases for him and his favorite pair of t-backs that I wear....that'll make him chuckle. I have never done that before either.


I am still GAL. Training for the Seattle 1/2 marathon and other fun things. I will miss him and I will let him know it, but without the poor woes me attitude that got the marriage in the poor shape it was.

We have never been closer or intune to each other than now. Where was this marriage before? We certainly didn't always have a bad marriage but wow we certainly missed the boat for a few years. Glad we are on board TOGETHER now.