Weird semi-nice/semi-hostile contact continues via IM...Now H is really stressed out about his overdue tuition, saying he doesn't want to travel for at least a few months, except this Mexico trip in January (note that was OUR trip until recently) to see his family, but everything is in the singular form here. However he talks about paying for tuition with the October stock/bonus money, note this is actually my stock and bonus money. To his not wanting to travel for awhile, I said "makes perfect sense." To "his" trip to Mexico, I said "Yes that is important." I will be devastated if he goes without me and his family sees this. We were married in Mexico...I am a part of the family, and hopefully I will remain so.
Not once has he even alluded to the fact that there are hotel charges and airline tickets in the budget due to this separation. In fact next month we could save a few hundred Euros by only having me come home 1-2 weeks early. I don't know how to get this into his mind though, as it really needs to come from him. I think he resents me now for pushing this expensive holiday we took and not paying on his school. Note too though that we have had a long-term budget for this for ages, which includes payment from one of my bonuses in Spring, but there is no way I'm mentioning a timeframe that far out right now... He has said "we shouldn't have gone on that holiday, this is my future here." So I only said, "I'm sorry, you're right. We will cover it though." Also we were behind on my MBA loan payments for a year after my graduation. Selective memory. I just hope this isn't being added the list of reasons why it is good not to be with me :(.
Anyway I'm incredibly tempted once again to try and make conversation, and to ask him can't I just come home and we can work on this together, but am biting my virtual tongue.
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
