Wow.....I did not know it had been so long since I last posted.
Well I am still in a mess. H did stop the A with my ex best friend. We were trying to work on things (at least I thought). About 3 months later I notice H's cell minutes had gone up a lot again. Well I checked and found a # constantly calling him.
I called the # and found out it was a female but did not know who it was at that time. Confronted H and he told me it was a high school fling he had way back and ran into her and they were just friends, etc. etc. She is married also, with a teenage son.
I asked him to cut the calls down a bit and they did. For a short time. Then in May he had to go out of town for school with his job and I started noticing text messaging was beginning. My H has NEVER text messaged before so I knew something was going on. I called our cell phone provider and had the text messages log.
I spent an entire week watching these 2 text back and forth about how in love with each other they are till it made me sick! I did some detective work and found out where she lives. Went there several times trying to catch her H alone so I could let him know but she was always there too or no one was there.
H came back into town and I confronted him to which he tried to tell me he set me up. WTF???? I don't think so. Anyway I filed for D on May 12.
It was rough at first. A lot of fighting between H and myself. Then it started to ease off. I started seeing someone and it was good but I was not ready for that. Could not shake the feelings I still had for my H. Not sure why those feelings are still there but they are.
So anyway, about a month ago the skank that my H was talking to pretty much cut it off. I did a little snooping lately and found that they have not been talking on the phone. There have been a couple text messages but nothing really. H swears up and down that it did not lead to sex. I really do NOT believe that.
We are now waiting on mediation which we just got the appt. yesterday and it will be in 3 weeks. We are getting along better now than we ever have. I did move out when I started seeing OP and am now living with my mom. H comes by there EVERY night to hang out. He calls me several times a day. Every day.
We do not talk about getting back together. It never gets discussed. H does take D7 every other weekend but here lately he has been wanting me to stay the weekends too. Even the ones where I have D7.
ANy ideas on what he is thinking? Another question I have is can you stop a D if mediation date is already set? Not that that will happen but I would like to know how far you can go and still stop a D. So sorry this post is so long. Trying to fit everything in here that is important.
