I knew I had seen the writing before, and that is where.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
See...it all worked itself out. I am really glad you didn't ask. I couldn't imagine who'd have said that to him, it's not like he really has time for anyone else right now. And he is initiating contact with you way too much, wanting to talk about things that if he was seeing someone, he could discuss with them.
On somewhat the same note...it looks like he's mending fences with his surrogate mom. That's a good sign.
Lola...that's a perfect example of thinking things out before you speak. Good job! How silly it would have looked if you had asked him and it turned out to be so innocent.
This is something that might help all of us....
Reasonable Mind -- This is our logical side. When in Reasonable Mind, we look at the facts, objectively evaluate them and decide our best course of action. Let's use the example of someone shopping for a new car. When in reasonable mind, we know we need a safe, fuel-efficient car, that's affordable. We'll consider how many people will be riding in the car and make a decision based on our analysis.
Emotional Mind -- This is our emotional side. When in Emotional Mind, we consider our feelings first, and often ignore or minimize logic. We may even start justifying our feelings by interpreting the facts to suit. So, our car shopper, in emotional mind want's something fun and exciting, something that drives fast and looks sexy. How about a Ferrari or a Porsche? Here, we go with how we're feeling, our gut.
Wise Mind -- This is our goal. Wise mind is the fusion of our reasonable and emotional minds. When in wise mind, we do the same logical thinking as in Reasonable mind, at the same time we also factor in our feelings, wants and desires. So, in wise mind, the car shopper would look for a cost-effective, safe car that can comfortably hold everyone.... and balances that with the desire for something that looks attractive and is fun to drive.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
That is a really great analogy! And one I can totally relate to.
I am glad that I figured that out and did not say anything about the wording, besides it was spelled correctly and for anyone who has seen German, that is not something you can pull off the top of your head. The only other person he knows who is a German is a nurse he used to work with who is in her late 50's...
I agree. He is contacting me way too much. I think I just needed the reassurance that I was not losing my mind.
Of course, my mind (i.e. head) is killing me now. I think I'll go in search of Motrin...)
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I have a thought and don't think I'm nuts....what if your car issue is Gods way of having your H spend more time with you? I know, I know! Think about it though because now H is driving you to work which means that you'll see him everyday. God works in mysterious ways. And I'm not 100% nuts (60% maybe lol)
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
If you had used emotional mind you would have had a fight with H but reasonable mind took over and you thought it through and saved a lot of stress for both you and him.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
No I don't think your nuts. I already asked him if he could drive me into work, and he said he would. We talked a little in the car about the sitch, and I apologized. He made sure I knew that it was not only my fault, it was both of us, and that is the first time I have heard him really say that. I told him I felt like a waste of air space, and he said that I wasn't, that he was in the same financial sitch. Of course, he says his problem is he has a hard time saying no. I didn't really want to ask exactly what that meant, just said I understood. He got out of the car immediatley this morning to give a hug, and gave me another when he dropped me off at work.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hmmmm Jen has a point there. There usually is always a silver lining in all our storms that we don't notice during the storm. Hopefully this will help pull you & H closer together.
