ITH, you should go back and read your previous thread, just to see how far you and your situation have come. It really is impressive. I think you're doing much better at the "no pressure" thing. Now, if he'll work on his own issues, you're golden. It makes me smile to see all of this.
I'm getting settled. If you want a bit of an update on where my situation is, go to "Surviving the Big D" and check out my thread, "A House By The Lake". Even though my situation went the divorce route, I'm very happy. That said, the problems with the ex are still not ever going to end.
