Wow! The ups and downs, huh? You and I seem to be in similar places in our sitch, emotions wise. Biggest difference is, if you've read mine through, my wife and I have extremely little contact compared to you and your W.
That was the advice given to me. Being dark and just focusing on me. As far as I know, she is living the good life and happy as a clam. I have thought about doing things a little different, more contact, but now looking at your sitch, I think the outcome would be the same. After all the contact you have with yours, she is STILL with the POS! I have a feeling mine would still do the same, too.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."