I can't believe how infuriated she gets when this subject is breached. She still thinks this is about sex only. It's about passion and her wanting me.
Ok Senor Cinco get ready for another 2x4 from another Alicia...
[eyes rolling and winking at you too!] This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you.... { insert eyes rolling again }
Ok... you need to believe to her it is only about sex.
1. you had many affairs, which said Passion wasn't important getting your rocks off was. Can't have true Passion or connection with a stranger.
2. a. when you tell her she still isn't doing x, y or z , she will be let off the hook if you seek it [ sex ] elsewhere. BTDT!~! b. also when you say you are still doing this wrong all she hears is you , you and you , and remembers that you used to say she was *worthless* by having the affairs and ow that you 'want ' her she is somehow supposed to lay all that down and put it on complete ignore and f~ck your brains out.
3. to her IMO~ it is and always will be about sex... UNTIL SHE FORGIVES YOU AND HER. I dunno if she has forgiven you , or forgiven herself for staying with you? { look at how a lot of people here think I am a nut job for staying and standing for my M when my hubby does x, y or z?} and the resentment is stronger than the sexual drive when it takes over. {WHAT DO YOU THINK? } 4. you have just only begun to change and will she ever ? I dunno. But a few months of you playing house doesn't erase the { years?] of you playing MR MACHO Man who can play around and then come home to his WIFEY poo sleeping at home and waiting for him 5. Do you think she has healed? Do you think she is over you being a Casanova?
{ I say I am healed and then it takes very little for me to curl up into a ball and want to give up and ask GOD again , why me and why do I love this Man who cannot love me?}
OK I will put my Bat away now....
And smooth down my feathers... OH yeah and that hair that got out of place while I was saying.... Ahem. Love ya Cinco , you remind me of my Hubby and I have learned so much from you. so~ These are all my OPINIONS~ AND SHE MAY NOT FEEL LIKE THIS AT ALL. but~ I just know how I felt when my hubby would ask me to raise the bar. Pretty hurt and very pissed. Why didn't he come to me or try harder instead of laying with a whore? Why did he have to break my spirit to get off? I was ignorant to how important the connection we didn't have anymore was and so was he. He tried to fix the pain by going elsewhere. A vicious f~cking cycle.
