A big relationship talk - out of the blue....

[Abbey]

I'm going to have to get that book, thanks for recommending it.

I do intend to become much less inhibited in bed. The way we were way back when we were younger. Right now, it's making and keeping my resolve not to push. To listen, to be there,... as he still is in jumble mode and that's not going to go away over night. There's some stuff like I said that may take upward of a year to deal with... solidarity is what we're building as well as our passion. We need that passion. He's ready for that passion (he said so last night).... Just I need to take this in steps. (more on that later).

If I've learned anything about my roller coaster ride so far Transformer,... is that me showing massive amounts of stability, has impressed him. He was even impressed with my having a year's worth of furnace filters. *grin*

(We're sitting watching tv and I was mentioning that I felt that the air conditioning in this place still leaves the house a little damp instead of the dryer air you'd expect. He asked: do you remember to change your furnace filters?) I couldn't resist... I made him get up and said... come with me... *laughing*... we went into the utility room where I have a year's worth of filters. One to change every 30 days - cuz I have critters and critter fur I said... I even write it down in dates on a day timer. I'm so organized, I scare myself
He loved that!

Basically it does come down to 180s ... and then being ready to show all the love you can when they'll let it in. That's where I am right now. Much like Lisa though... cuz the OW is still in the picture because of some stuff that needs to work itself out, I'm still anxious... but a phone call this morning from H sure helped.

More in a bit.
Abbey