AS stated in my previous posts, my wife made her final decision to get a divorce after working a at a sleep away camp this summer. She is a lifeguard/swim instructor and worked at the camp for 8 weeks while my children attended the camp free of charge. By two oldest attended the actual camp, while my youngest went to a local day camp. At night, my little one would be with my wife.
After a couple of weeks, she was going crazy dealing with him as she wanted to participate in camp events and go out at night. I felt bad for her and when I visited weekends, tried to give her some time away from my son. I even reluctantly agreed to babysit him at the room while she went out at night with her friends. I felt rejected and hurt that she did not want me to be with her and her friends. I even located a babysitter, but she still insisted on me not going.
At that point I was convinced she was hiding something from me--like a relationship. She denied it, but a week before camp ended, she insisted on sending my son home early so she could have some space and handle the intense ending of camp--color war et al. At that point i was convinced that she was seeing someone.
Sleep away camp in which adults work in order for children to go free is common. After my wife asked for a divorce, I then came across other people who had spouses ask for divorces after returning from sleep away camp. This apparently is a presistent problem that has not received any press. Of course, if a marriage is shaky in the first place, then such staying is more possible and likely as in my instance.
For many spouses, it is the first time that they have been away from their significant other for an extended period of time. The temptation is great as actions in that fantasy land can occur without the other spouse even knowing about it.
Has anyone else come across this or have any comments???
