Is he starting to come home?

[NikB]

Hi BH - OK so for now looks like your 'main' post is here.

I'd recommend either We're Separated or Surviving. I can't even stomach the MLC forum and I know many others can't. (sorry and NO offense intended for those who do post there regularly!! It just doesn't work for me). I've lost track of a few people when they switched to that forum.

YES hon, protect your heart. That's most important.

I'm soo glad you're protecting yourself.

Soo.. yeah, you're in a tough spot. And honestly I have a hard time providing advice because of how my sitch turned out. AT THE TIME, my approach was "be the OW to the OW." BUT.. the key is you can't get sucked in. It's tough. And... I later learned in my sitch that "OW" was less of an "OW" than I thought (EA yes, but no PA or R).

Ok, now here is my school of thought: Always be nice and upbeat around him because it makes ME feel better, knowing I am a good person and still capable of having compassion with someone who may not deserve it. Look as cute as possible because it makes ME feel good and confident, not doing it for him. If it makes it hard for him to leave, good because he needs to feel anguish over what he has done. If not, then he is a shadow of the man I knew and I dont need the new him anyway. Go NC when it comes to my personal life and dont care about his personal life, it no longer concerns me. This way I get to detach and heal but dont feel like I am being a mean angry b!tch in the process.

I like this! Where do I sign up for your school??

My brother keeps telling me that I need to sign up for some dating websites. He said it was not to go on dates, but to meet new friends.

I think your bro wants you to stop hurting ASAP.

Unfortunately, jumping into dating is likely to do the opposite.

Instead I'd suggest.. YES meet new friends, but NO not with dating in mind. I posted lots of meetup ideas to you, right? I met some amazing friends (NOT "R friend" just actual friends!) that way. What about starting there?