Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[marisol35]

Well everyone... thank you so much for the support but I got the D today. Not the papers but that he has filed. The day after our first year anniversary. Can you believe it? Then it was in a text message no less. He couldn't even have the decensy to call me or tell me in person. He asks me in a text message for my SS# and when I ask why he says he is filing for a divorce. He says he is at the Divorce Store filling out paperwork and needs it. I was destroyed. I left work and cried in my car for 2 hours. Then he calls after I send some angry messages and says "why do you want to be married to someone who doesn't want to be married to you" and "I don't love you the way you love me" and "it has nothing to do with her if she left me tomorrow I still want a divorce because I don't want to be married to you anymore". He said the reason he is doing this is because he does care and doesn't want this to linger on and be separated giving me hope when there isn't any.

I refused to sign anything from a place called the Divorce Store. And how did he know about that anyway? I am sure that the 21 OW told him about it, probably even looked it up for him so that he could go. Most likely is pressuring him to do it so that they can "start their relationship".

I don't see any hope now. There is nothing left for me. I am going to a lawyer tomorrow because I am not going to sign anything without someone looking at it for me. He asks why would I do that when this is so EASY and we don't have to pay thousands of dollars in lawyer fees. He says no matter if I fight or if I do it like this the end result for him will be the same because he wants a divorce PERIOD.

So, here I am the day after our first anniversary (oh and he said he didn't realize what day it was) and my husband files for D.

I guess I will not have the chance to do 180s but I will GAL because all that is left is me and I have to take care of me and my D16 who cried with me tonight because I told her. I did not want her to find out from anyone else especially her father.

You all are great. Keep it up for each other. I will be checking in but I will be taking some time alone.