I personally think that ignoring him is best...as puppy said.
I didn't do it either...so it isn't a criticism. Move on to someone you can make a difference with. There are so many here. Some newbie isn't getting attention because we're involved in this drama.
I completely understand the need to 'take a stand' for what you believe in. Tomorrow I plan to focus on the newbies.
Your hearts, your moral code etc....are all in the right place.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
I do not think that ignoring him is the best solution to his bevaviour however, given that this is a virtual community, I have to admit that ignoring him is probably our only course of action.
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Move on to someone you can make a difference with. There are so many here. Some newbie isn't getting attention because we're involved in this drama.
I do agree with this 100%
M35 W37 S9 D6 M12 yrs Know 15 yrs Bomb 1/28/07 My Sitch Failure is the opportunity to start again more intelligently - Henry Ford
I completely understand the need to 'take a stand' for what you believe in. Tomorrow I plan to focus on the newbies.
Your hearts, your moral code etc....are all in the right place.
I am trying to phrase this and limit the bitch factor because for the most part, I don't think you intentionally try to sound condescending, sg.
I'm choosing to reply to your post even though I don't know who it was directed to or if it was a general post...
I personally don't have a "need" to take a stand for anything other than my husband.
It's my responsibility though to take stands such as the one I've taken today because do you know how many times people have taken a stand on MY behalf?
Too many to count.
More often than not, stands that I take do not win me any friends.
But nevertheless I take them.
I also don't need anyone here telling me whether or not my heart and/or moral code is in the right place.
I am really coming to believe that you look at all of us as just a bunch of broken vessels that need validation.
And if that is the case, you'd better check again.
For the record, I will now be focusing my attention elsewhere, as well.
I'm afraid to offer hope, cuz it might involve being blunt and telling someone to act like a man and stop being a douche bag(I have a thread in mind). They might not like that, and I might get in big trouble.
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
Move on to someone you can make a difference with. There are so many here. Some newbie isn't getting attention because we're involved in this drama.
YES... please, please, please. (not to BEG ya, y'know...)
Use the thread on how to ignore a poster if you're getting sucked in and don't want to.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I'm afraid to offer hope, cuz it might involve being blunt and telling someone to act like a man and stop being a douche bag(I have a thread in mind). They might not like that, and I might get in big trouble.