Your H is such an ass, though. Makes it easy for you.
I don't think I give enough of myself to wife for her to be one to me much. Contact is minimal, like the way it was supposed to be, I thought.
If I did a 180 and started more contact with her, who knows? She might prove herself to be just as much an ass as your and kats and suga's H's. She certainly has it in her.
I know!!! I think sometimes it's so much easier for me b/c there is so little good in him anymore (that I can see anyway). Sometimes I've even thought I wonder if he is acting so awful to make me not like him; he was so upset when I used to tell him I loved him, he just wanted me to get over him so he can be with OW guilt-free I think. But maybe he is just an a$$!
I think if you are about like me lately I look at doing 180s just for me and my kids now, not really focused on thinking about what might attract H or help with that. I think my H is in his own little world anyway!!! If you think a 180 will make you happy or something you should do, then go for it!!! Karen
