He never would have left if he had been happy in our marriage, if I had made him feel loved, respected and appreciated.
Oh PUHLEEZE!
Okay, I don't know your marriage, maybe you were hell on wheels. But one thing I DO know, after all my time here and having met a couple dozen DBers in real life - plenty of FINE people get left by spouses because the SPOUSE has issues.
They seldom leave because of the marriage, often leave because of their own depression or issues.
In fact, given the history of your R with your mom, that probably explains why you put up with so much poop from your H. (My dad died when I was 14, which probably explains why I tried so hard to save my marriage instead of just telling my H to get lost years ago.)
Frankly, I think those people who really were awful, irredeemable spouses don't COME to the DB board and work their butts off the way we all have.
So give yourself a break, and focus on creating a bright new tomorrow. (btw - read in a magazine this week about a woman whose husband cheated on her with her friend and left her. She started an online business selling joke gifts related to divorce - like the ex-husband knife block - and is making a fortune now! :>) )
