We're never getting back together-How do you cope?

[MsMelancoly]

In my own sitch - one problem I realized (my H is depressed as well) is that I was becoming more of his mother than his wife. (Have that rescueing instinct in me - damn it). Trying to in some ways in my eyes "make his life easier". But, yet one of the reasons he left was so he could pay off his debts by himself & become independent. He also said he didn't want to come home until his debts were paid ...... guess I'll be here for the next 5 years or so....

For me - it did help to read books on depression. To get some sort of understanding what they & now you are dealing with. (I'll look for the 1 mentioned in DR).