On the Edge, bless your heart, I know you feel so low and want to give up b/c you aren't seeing changes fast enough. But that is not how it happens, I'm sorry to say.

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I've been very discouraged lately because even with all the changes I'm making, I feel like it doesn't make a bit of difference. I like what I've done, and I'm much happier in other parts of my life (work, family, friends), but I still feel like a huge part of my life is missing and she gives me no hope and no indication that any of this will change


May I tell you something about what I see in this quote? I see a H that is trying to make big changes in himself to win his wife back. Instead of making changes for his good in order to be the best man he can be regardless if his life includes his wife or not.........he is trying to use these changes as a ploy to get her back. It isn't working, as far as he can tell at this point and time, so he is discourage with this principle.

Do you see what I'm saying? Remember what Michelle says in her book? These changes are to improve you and for you only. Untill you can reach that menal capasity that you realize this concept and resolve to do this for YOU and not for her, then it won't work. That is why you feel hopeless and depressed. You don't have the right menal attitude. You are not getting a life for yourself and becoming an interesting, fun, and attractive man b/c all you can think about is your wife and your stitch. Nobody wants to be around a person that is giving off those vibes. Do you think that is what you may be doing? That is why I said it all depends on the menal attitude. If you get it there......then it will work regardless of what she does, b/c you can't control her, but you can control your own life.

Don't feel hopeless now, okay? Pick yourself up and determine in your own mind, soul, and spirit that you will have a life and you will become the very best man that you can be. You will have to work on that everyday. Therefore, you may want to make short personal goals for yourself.....as far as self improvement, not the M. When you get YOU right, then I think you will begin to have peace in your life. Right now, you don't feel peace at all and that says a lot. That is the first thing you need to try to accomplish.....okay? Stop focusing so much on the M and the W and your stitch and just try to get yourself straighten out and find peace within yourself. Then you will show confidence,strength, and honor, as a man......and that is very attractive to other people......including your wife. Put first things first. Maybe you should make a list of priorities....but make sure you are at the top of that list and what all you need to do about YOU.

Okay, it's late again and I need to hit the sack. Talk to you later. Hope you will come back and visit me. I appreciate your encouragement to me.

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!