not speaking up in a case of abuse seems to be the wrong way to go about it.....
I get the feeling there's been enough "speaking" however I think sg is taking quite a chance by professing LP was lying/embellishing/over-dramatizing all those previous posts.
I mean, if she and/or Virginia addressed those issues privately with him that is GREAT but how can she know he wasn't lying when LP told her THAT?
That question is hypothetical.
The fact is no one here can help him until he decides to help himself.
