Got your message. Sometimes things look bad but they aren't. Sometimes when you are standing up for yourself it will piss your H off and later he will respect that. It depends if you were coming from a loving place and just making a boundary or you were coming from your old "stuff". The stuff that drew you apart in the first place. As far as family is concerned you need to seperate them from you. Every person in my family and my H's gave different advce and opinions. When I was crushed but wanted to move on they made me fearfull about being divorced when he started to really try and come back into our lives they now bring up his past behavior and want me to still crucify him. Everyone else has their own problems and they can only advise you as per their own relationships and "stuff". If I had to pick one poster who was right on the money it was Hearts Blessings. I can still remember your story and I remember you had an operation on your right side right? How is Deanna by the way.
