I've been over in the Separated forum for months. I know PDT wasn't beating me up and I know that sometimes tough love is best. It was just a bad night last night. I was posting to BadCompany for a while in the beginning of his situation and trying to support him and help him out. I know you aren't throwing advice around with no regard for the people. Some people seem to have gotten a dose of sainthood in their ability to hang in there and keep going. I'm just not sure I can continue for another couple of days let alone another couple of months that I think are necessary to get things to where I'm ready to discuss things with my W.
Our parenting plan is to have a family home where the kids are permanent residents and the parents spend at least half of their time living in the house and caring for the kids. I would push for both parents spending every Sunday together with the kids too, but, we will have to see how that balloon floats.
No, I can't make her do anything, and I can't make her happy. She has to learn that happy comes from within and is a decision about how to handle the circumstances of life.
Sandi, the point I was trying to make to PDT is that I've been carrying a heavy burden for some time and working hard on myself and I've reached a point where I have to look beyond my W and our R and think about me and about the kids. What will be the best situation for the kids and what will be the best situation for me? I'm looking for a job closer to home so I don't spend so much time commuting and a bump in salary would allow me to hire some help with certain things. However, part of the solution may well be forcing Mom back into the role of responsible adult.
I hope that clears some things up. I just got back from back to school night for D12 and it was pretty tough seeing all the couples there together.
