Again, you do NOT know what really goes on with folks on this board, you only know what's posted.
SG, I'm am not sure what you are trying to get at here.
Are you suggesting that we assume that he is lying when he says he spits on his W, throws pizza at her and shoves grapefruit in her face? That would seem to me a terrible assumption to make.
Not all of that if any of it actually happened. I don't remember all the details but I know there was no grapefruit. He spills his thoughts. Many folks do that. Recently there was someone much more vocal and violent...and on this forum. I rarely got a notice about him.
Please clarify your line of thinking here.
Also, you are critizing us for not trying something different when he freaks out at the suggestion that he is doing anything wrong. What specifically would you suggest? I for one have no intention of validating his behaviour. No one was criticized. It's an observation that what most of us were doing with him wasn't working.
Not speaking or going about it differently is NOT the same as validating. This is a lesson that is useful in our own lives.
In fact....speaking and going on about it can make the situation WORSE. If all we are doing is ranting about it and agitating someone....it makes the situation worse.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
