Good, let's hope he keeps to his schedule of picking her up.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
FG this is how some of the convos started with my h. He wouldn't show or call then sent an e-mail or something saying sorry he didn't call or something.
It's all in the way you handle it. I started responding something like h thanks for the e-mail. Glad to hear you went out and somewhat enjoyed yourself. Let me know when you want to see D or something like that FG. Oh and you are biting your tongue raw BTW.
When your h doesn't feel attacked when he doesn't do something expected is when he might make more of an effort.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Thanks GG! I'm taking notes and I think I'm doing okay so far. I did have to email him today letting him know I forgot my cell at home and if school calls to please let me know (since he's the 2nd contact). I called the school too and made sure they have my direct # to my desk though too. H just responded "Definately, not a problem!" and that's it. I think I'll be okay leaving him be. I've done so for 2 days now (I know, don't laugh! ) and it doesn't seem so bad this time.
A friend of mine emailed me yesterday and told me that she left her H. She said she feels absolutely nothing for him and it's time to go. They got married too soon, and only because she got pregnant. She said to me today, just now via email, "when there's nothing there, there's nothing there". The enemy is working on me due to this statement....what if H feels this way????
Sorry about your friend Dar, but maybe you should share all you have learned about this. I wish I had been more supportive of a friend of mine when she left her H. I think I could have helped, maybe not, I dont know, but she left her H before I even thought of mine leaving me, but I still wish I had done more than just listen.....I dont know your friend though. Im just rambling....
Hope your doing well today!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I tried talking to her all day yesterday. She's been back and forth on this for a while now. She went to MC and IC and had it in her head from the beginning that it wouldn't work. I asked her today if she's 100% sure this is the right decision and she said that she's never been happier, able to sleep and eat now and even stopped taking her anti-D/anti-A's. So there's no changing her mind at all. We'll be on different planes for our M's for sure!
You know the only thing I would recommend to a friend who has her mind made up is to not date anyone for a while. I think that is where alot of problems are only made worse. My friend had actually decided to throw her H out and then she started looking for someone else and actually was seeing him behind her H's back. I still fuss at her about it...funny thing is she listens to me fuss about my H and she did basically the same thing and now she can see how I feel is probably how her H felt.
Oh well....we all have to live with our decisions.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
If my friend is the same as when we were in high school, then she will be out on the town in no time. I'm hoping she focuses on her S4 right now instead of that though. She moved into her Gram's condo and is living there but her and H need to fix up the house to sell it. I offered my help with anything she needs, that's what friends are for, but I don't think she'll feel comfy talking to me since I'm fighting for my M and she's leaving her's.
H has continued to email me after I emailed him about the cell phone. He told me he has an IC appt tomorrow at 6:30! I'm shocked he actually made this appt, but I'm so proud of him for doing that!
) and it doesn't seem so bad this time.