Nothing else makes sense in all of this. You all have been so kind, so supportive...but can you really know someone in cyberspace? I mean, no one on the planet knows me as well and as deeply as he does - and he doesn't want it; he has judged me as not good enough.
I tried so hard. And it didn't matter. He doesn't love me anymore, and it is my fault, the way that I treated him and made him feel. And I was too stupid or co-dependent or whatever you want to label it, for me to see it, to hear him, to do that to him in the first place. He never would have left if he had been happy in our marriage, if I had made him feel loved, respected and appreciated.
Oh, puh-lease! I do think that none of us here is a perfect person. Yeah, and we didn't just stop loving the person or find an OP or whatever. I felt like that too for a while, but my H is seriously messed up and yours too. I think he will find that life with the new family is not going to be the dream he thinks.
I have really examined myself and found my faults: needy, dependent, low self-confidence, etc. and really worked on them the past year. But H is still intent on D and moving in with OW. I think they just have to come up with an excuse to justify the unjustifiable: If W didn'd do X, Y, or Z then I wouldn't have left.
I mean when someone's abusive they always blame the victim "you made me do it" but it's just crap. I don't think there's anything wrong with looking at yourself and making changes, but nobody's perfect and you should be able to be a flawed human like all of us and not have that happen. And your mom and sister sound like they have "issues" and that's about them not you also.
