Divorced but hoping to Reconcile

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

lnmw--

I really admire you for your "Damascus Road" experience and having the initiative to come someplace where you might be castigated for your actions prior to it.

You mention God in an earlier post. What is your religious POV? I would like to recommend a site called Rejoice Marriage Ministries. The founders of this site were reconciled two years after they divorced and the ministry is devoted to God's healing power for broken marriages.

I would also like to recommend two books to you. The first is For Men only. It may give you even more insight to your wife and all she is feeling right now. I read the companion book, For Women Only and experienced several V-8 moments with the different approaches men and women have to various situations. The second book is Five Love Languages. I highly recommend this to everyone. you cannot fill up your ex's love tank if you do not know the right way to do it. This book may just help you achieve that.

I am glad that you have come to realize the importance of family. I do not think it is too late, but do not expect this to be an easy row to hoe. You have wounded your wife deeply and she needs space and time to process the changes you have made. She also needs to see continuity in the changes, not just hear you talk about it. She gave you ample opportunity to step up to the plate and you repeatedly let her down. You owe her patience now.

I am proud of you for taking steps to reconcile your marriage and be there for your family. Too many WAS check out and never look back. I will keep an eye on you and wish you much success.

SMW