The wife and I have told each other that we wouldn't keep each other from the kids. If I want to see them, I can. Vice versa. If she wants to see them, she can. If something comes up, like a party or something, then I believe that we can be flexible.
So far we've been doing that too. When my H came back from vacation and wanted the kids for 2 days I was fine with that. I don't know how he made it through 9 days without them, but he is different from me. My L is just worried he is upping his time with them to reduce child custody or something like that it sounded. He is wanting extra hours now that we are getting closer to the actual D hearing. If it was anyone normal, I would love to be 100% flexible. But I really don't like the idea of the kids staying at his apt. all day, not homeschooling (b/c he wouldn't do that), and they are 2 guys who don't really have anything for the kids there, and H would be working anyway so it seems really pointless unless his L maybe told him to increase his time with them for whatever reason.
Well, I was making dinner when H got here and he purposely was avoiding me went into another room and then was giving me the silent treatment. Said not one word to me. When I first saw him though I said a friendly "hi" (can't stop myself) but I just went around doing my own thing cooking and then working out. And I have dreams that we can still maintain friendship after this, which I think at this point is just a dream not reality!!! Really though I think the silent treatment was fine for me (I was dreading yelling & arguing) so I was laughing inside kind of at his "punishment" for me. Glad the night is over though!!! Karen
