Hey Jen sounds like you had a really good session. I think that she is 100% right on about him being confused which works for your benefit.
Now you know exactly what you were doing wrong (the over-reacting and OAI) so now the hardest thing will be making sure that they don't come through at least when he is around. Never even acknowledge anything about his phone ringing if/when it goes off around you....at that if he goes to answer it, walk away, show him that you have not the slightest concern of who it it is what he says to them.
You are already making great improvements, with the coach's help you will definatly be heading in the right direction to what you want.
I'm very pleased with Vernetta. She's always ready to offer encouragement or scolding when needed.
I hurt my xh a lot when we were married and I want to show him I'm sorry for those times. I guess the best way is to show him changes I've made. Confusion works for me but he was more confused a month ago and I have a need to confuse him some more. The more confused he is the more he comes around
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hi P...long time no "see" Thanks for stopping in with nice things to say.
Well, he's back to flying out the door. He dropped D off tonight and barely said anything. I told him something about the bank account and that was it. He left within 1 minute and as I said above I didn't invite him to stay. No pressure or persuing and when he wants to stay a while he'll be more than welcome.
I think I'll kill him with kindness for the next week
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
