Yes, we were separated for about 2 1/2 years and those feelings you have are totally normal.
It was very hard to get those feelings back.
I actually told my Husband ILYBNILWY......
He said we would work on it together, and he has made leaps and bounds.....and he has been home now for almost 18 months and we are almost normal.
Short, this is why piecing is so damn difficult.
It is harder when they come home because there is nowhere to hide.
You actually have to face them, and see them daily each and every day.
You have to look them in the face and see the person that hurt you and betrayed you.
You have to forgive them for what they have done.
You have to let the past go.
I loved my Husband, I always have, even when he was at his worst.
But, I did not have those "in love" feelings anymore.
At times the only feelings I had were pity for him, and what he had become.
At other times I had alot of compassion for him, as I knew how hard things must have been for him inside his head.
But MLC or not, he had crossed the line and had done things that were so totally outrageous and disrespectful that those "in love" feelings were pretty much gone.
I still prayed daily for him to come home because I knew it was the "right" thing, and ultimately I wanted to be right with God.
But it is a personal decision and there should be no pressure.
Only you know what you can handle. Nobody else has to walk in your shoes.
The feelings can come back, but only if you allow them to.
((((((((hugs)))))))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
