Is there a glimmer of hope for I'mstillhopeful ?

[I'mstillhopeful]

I've been reading various people's comments that the MLC forum is a place where the LBSs have become stuck in focusing on the WAS. When this thread locks I'll probably go over to "Separated". If anyone still reads this forum I could really use some good DB advice on how to respond to H about a certain issue.

I have been GAL and feeling really great about some of the things I have been doing and some fascinating people I have been meeting. Last weekend H went to the wedding of a nephew while I was to attend a gathering of some people who share an interest in a new sport. In fact, had H invited me to the wedding I would have probably declined in favor of the plans I had already made as I had really been looking forward to the event. Before I left I e-mailed H to advise him that I would be away for the weekend and that if he were to want to work on the taxes he could locate the paperwork next to the computer.

I had a truly wonderful time and returned home early Sunday afternoon. This was a camping event and we had been out in the torrential downpours which were the remnants of the hurricane. The dog and I and our bedding were fairly damp at this point so access to dry clothes was very attractive.

H apparently had tried to contact me on his way from the airport and actually came to the house and drove up the driveway. When he saw that my truck was here he tried to telephone me from his car. I didn't hear the phone so, rather than startle me, or intrude he left. Later he e-mailed and explained the situation in case I had seen his car drive away.

In his e-mail he told me about the wedding and mentioned that noone in his family had mentioned our situation nor, had they inquired how either he or I were faring. I'd like to validate his feelings but can't think of anything to say which wouldn't sound sarcastic or might open up a talk about the R. Any assistance on this would be much appreciated.

Also interesting was that he mentioned that the nephew's father (H's brother) who had been a serial adulterer throughout his marriage, has had two failed marriages and multiple gfs has a new gf. Interesting that H sees this worthy of note. His exact words, "J has a new girlfriend, you know him, J will always be J." I had been thinking that H was trying to emulate J by ditching our long term M so the comment was surprising. Must remind self, "it's MLC don't try to make sense of it".