You know your W better than any of us....but perhaps she has just changed and evolved as life has altered her outlook. We DO all change one way or another, and her changes are not acceptable to you and have not been in line with yours. You have lost touch with one another and what matters to you both differs.
I think that we all do need to go through certain stages in life.It is said that a child that doesn't crawl, but goes straight to walking, at some point will need to revisit that part of their development. Perhaps in your W's case, she never rebelled against her upbringing when young, at a time when most of us do, and NOW is the time she has chosen......with devastating effects. My sister has done something very similar and it has created carnage.
When I was young I was a real tearway....I know it's hard to believe ;). I gave my parents many a sleepless night. Now I am the 'sensible' child and it is my sister who does things that shock and horrify her parents, (and her children). Frankly, I am also appalled by her behaviour....but she never got it out of her system when young. She destroyed her M....with the help of her husband.
To be honest Theo, you have been fighting this situation in your M for a long time. I know you have the children to consider....and their standard of living. Surely though, they would be happier with a contented and more peaceful father. You are a good man and you deserve a partner in life who is going to support you.
I have always been a strong follower of you as you know....I want what is best for you. Frankly, your W does not seem to be the best person for you to be with.
Follow your heart Theo.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
