Hi Twinhope, it is frustrating. I talked to the MC about the letter. He thought it was good. No mention of A and OW. More of his D15 and how she is in pain and how she sees him drinking etc. He is steadily looking at apartments. If he put this much effort into the marriage we would definitely have hope. I am terrified once he gets out he wants to wait 3 months and then file for divorce. He has this wrapped up in a package. I think he will push for divorce to free some of our finances up since he is in debt. I need to find a way to work around that but I am not just handing him our 401K or whatever. How did this get so bad. I think you have a better chance with a 21 year old because they change their minds quick. My H's OW is 1 year older than him and firmly wants to get her hands on him. It is depressing most of the time. The worst part is that D15 and myself are her in Tx all by ourselves. We are from the east coast and moved out here for jobs. I was living in the hometown I grew up in. This is my first move ever. I have no family support here. It is very lonely but my D is doing so well in school I do notwant to pull her out. She has 3 years left. So I will wait. Glad you are GAL and not doing old behaviors. I am trying very hard also but sometimes I am not successful. Soon as I flip H will say see this is the way you are controlling etc. So now I keep it in check. I read somewhere it takes 1 month for each year of marriage to get better. Well I guess I have to wait another 19 months!
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
