I desperately need help and support I have been married twice and right now I fear that, no lets say it looks and feels like the end of the 3rd marriage. My wife came home 2 months ago and said, 3 days before our 8th anniversary, she wanted no more to do with me or the marriage which knocked me for 6 but she told me she had been out of the marriage for ages and was faking it for me, she had been off sex for a year and that was hard on us, but I choose to ignore the fact that she was off everything. So about 3 weeks ago she moved out and got an apartment I was left with the Mortgage, 3 dogs a cat and a big hole in my life, yes been there before but this is very different in many ways, I believe if someone wants out then let them go I am not able to force any affection or caring, also I live here but am a new citizen, I came here because I loved her gave up my carier and I wanted nothing more that to be here with her. I am very much in love with my wife and missed the signals I feel I was wrong and yes its been a shame but I have and would be willing to go to any length to help but I was in a partnership with another who could also have been more vocal but see that is a empty gesture without my wife she has in the past said everyone has an agenda, change as suggested in the books yes but its also that there is no visible interest so again I feel like too little to late. I would like to hope, I need the support of the group and the wisdom good and bad. That sums up how I am right now my councilor wants me to do group therapy as I have no one here to talk to, all my eggs in one basket so to speak. Sure I have work buddies but I hate to burden them or expose me to what comes out I have been walking on egg shells for a long time it seems, I really do not know what to do next.
These are much like I posted just updated and reworded a bit
