This site has a specific purpose. We are here to save marriages using Michele's techniques and to support those whose marriages have failed,using solution oriented techniques to rebuild their lives.
We admit we have that bias. There are other boards that have different focus. _________________________
Are you implying we should help someone divorbust thier marriage even if they are in an abusive relationship?
Ok....so smacking the person around didn't work....try something different.
shoot them.
You have to have an audience. Their initial posts will give you a clue as to what they will hear. Maybe they will have to leave. Most likely they aren't going to leave initially. You want them to be safe. What they usually WON'T hear is all this stuff about abuse.
What they MAY hear, is how to do SOMETHING DIFFERENT. So you find out what their patterns of interaction are, and look for a teachable moment.
Jeanette...that implies more LISTENING to them than shouting at them to get out. Not that I always do that well....but it works better than lecturing.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
