And how long did it take you to realize that you wanted your family and intended to pursue?
If you describe your journey, you may help some of us who are trying to figure out our spouses.
I really do hope for the best in your situation, but I have to admit that reading your perspective was very painful to me. First, because my H clearly isn't there yet, and second, because I realize how angry/hurt/sad the whole situation has made me.
My H was going on and on about how he didn't have this and that accomplishment and he was also frustrated about how much he earned. It did not matter to me and I told him that.
Evidently then the reasoning was "I have an idea: I don't want responsibilities but really I don't have enough troubles and problems, so I think I'll be the one to save the crazy girl so I can feel important!
It appears that this scenario is fairly common to men in midlife but I sure wish he would transfer that energy to our daughter, who continues to come in second or last.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D