i would tatoo it on them but that might defeat the purpose
victims of abuse need to be ready to go at a moments notice i have photocopies (still) of all important documents. I used to keep them by the spare tire in the car
i hid knives in my house so the ex couldn't get to them
when i enter a new place, i note where all the exits are and make up games in my head so I don't forget
the hardys walk a little to the side of me that way if i ever got smacked, they could avoid the fall
i change the locks anywhere i move and never block doorways with anything
i kept a bag hidden behind the dumpster of my apartment that held pjs and clean clothes for the kids...shoes too
daycare and school got copies of the order for protection and the police were informed that they had them
i didn't let the boys have their picture taken at new schools
as a teacher it is pretty easy to check where I am teaching i wrote the state asking them to change that so that I couldn't be tracked as easily
be proactive if you react to everything they do you are dead in the water
and most importantly
when no one said anything i thought they all felt the same way as my ex...that I deserved it
one person saying no changed my mind one person telling me that i did not deserve that treatment...that I was better than that...helped me find the courage to leave
one person
that helped me get my courage together that helped me decide to make a plan that helped me leave after months of planning with nothing but my minivan and my boys and whatever i could cram into it while he was gone
one person helped me find safety
all of the voices that didn't speak convinced me to stay
