I tell you what I did. I made tons of mistakes. I called, cried, begged, pleaded, propositioned, bargained, you name it, I did it.
I stopped calling, and only contacted if it was absolutely necessary. I also shut my ringer on my phone off so that when H called, I did not always hear it and was not tempted to answer the phone.
The first week was the hardest. I did not contact at all until I had to, and then left it light. And from there, we have gone to talking pretty frequently.
The steps are small, and we all need to be reminded that they are there. This board is a wealth of information on what to do and what not to do. I would suggest you go dim, not dark because of the kids, but unless you have to contact, don't. Let her do the contacting, but also don't always be available.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
