it takes the victim of abuse an average of leaving 6 times before they leave for good
it is always important, when dealing with abusers, to have a plan
my parents have pics of all of my tatoos in case they need to identify my body my children have safe words to use i tell anyone and everyone where I am going and when I am expected to be there i carry $5 in change in my purse at all times in case i need to make a call or need a cab
i have always said that I would much rather be smacked around (which I was) than verbally and emotionally abused (which I also was)
the bruises fade, the bones heal, my kidneys only have a little damage (most abusers make sure they hit, kick and punch in areas that are concealed by clothing...if you know someone who has frequent bladder or kidney infections sometimes that is the reason) but everyday I hear those words in myhead how i was fat, stupid, worthless, a loser. How my requests to not be touched were violated because "he was my husband and i belonged to him"
you are partners in a relationship. partners build you up it is in their best interest as well for you to shine and be at your best abusers tear you down they feel powerful when you feel small
