Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

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Hi T2L, Wow I am so glad that we all found each other on this thread. What a sharing place.
I would love to expose them but it is a double edged sword. I know when I was away for work part of this summer, there was a party at her house (she loves to have parties.) I got stuck in Houston and had to stay the additional night. Well he did not get home till about 1:30. My D told me the next day. I think that is when it started but was unaware. In July we (D & me) went back to CT (work training and vacation time, visit family), we were gone 2.5 weeks. During that time H found out he was not getting sr mgmt position and he was totally depressed. Then it was his birthday turning 49. I think it started the MLC. When we got home he was ok but we had been drifting already. Then the following weekend he went golfing and then wasn't home. I called him about 6 pm and he answered and sounded like he was drinking and said he was going out to eat and just have fun with some of the guys. He got home at 11 pm drunk. He then said he was "unhappy" and wanted out of the marriage. After that everything changed. My sister came in the following week and he was fine but would not touch me and said he wanted to move out. Then I asked him if he was cheating on me and he said "who would have me". Well then the weirdest thing happened, I had a dream about H's brother that died 12 years ago. In this dream he said you know about my brother, you know. I told him I did not know what he meant. He said watch out for my brother. I woke up almost screaming. I got up and went to the garage. I looked in his golf bag and there was an opened bottle of Ky jelly there. I swear my H's brother was telling me -- I know it sounds crazy but H's brother was a big family man and loved me. I came in the house and H wakes up and I tell him the dream and he turns pale. I then said what is out in your golf bag. He was shocked. He said he had it for himself. I told him he was a liar then he said he had a one night affair with a stripper. So I start to watch out. I look at his credit card bill online and see he took someone out to dinner the night before his birthday in the next town and then out to a club. Could not figure who it was till one day I have a fight with him towards the end of the day. I leave work and I see his car in another hangar area. He is talking to one of his employees outside (a plastic surgery queen who is 2 years younger than me with a great body). They do not see me. I see the body language -- he is leaning into her and she is gazing at him. I just knew. Then he leaves and I go to turn around to leave and she is coming out with her car and sees me and soon as I saw the look on her face I knew. The worst part is I see my H daily at work so even when he moves this will be difficult and I also see her when I run these process meetings. I had to run a meeting last week and neither knew I would be there and soon as I walked in they both looked shocked. It was a 3 hour meeting. I wanted to smack her. To this day he denies it. Will not admit to anything
My issue is if I tell everybody at work, they will both be fired. I do not want this. I am not sure if I will tell my youngest D but my oldest yes and my SIL. I don't think I would have considered it before but you make a good case.
Sorry for this being long winded but wanted to give you all the details.