I do not put my children in the middle. She does. I stay calm around the children. She is the screamer, the yeller, and the abuser.
Oh yes you do Phil and until you take off that halo you elected to give yourself nothing will ever change.
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I am the one that was abused through the whole relationship. I didn't know how to react to her. I'm getting better.
What can I say for such a highly intelligent man(you told us this) how many years has it taken you to realise you were being abused? A few hours of not texting does not mean your getting better. Days weeks and months of not texting means you are getting better. Ask yourself who in your life you can name that has not caused you to behave badly? because not once have I heard you admit to any failings that haven't been blamed on other people. Even here you blaming us. Get help, professional intervention for your behavioural problems. You need far more than we can give you here. Don't let pride prevent you from letting your children grow up in a healthy and loving home.
