Hi SC... you (your C) is so right. But why do my guts practically turn inside out whenever I hear his voice get intense, his nasty words take on my actions, his blame lay at my feet... ugg..
I have been working really really hard, when he is like that, on thinking to myslef...
"It must be awful to be in an emotional place like that to be spew the kinds of things you say to the woman you profess to love more than anything else. How badly you must be hurting and how worthless you must feel about yourself, that you are willing to say those things about the mother of your children?"
I am beginning to feel pity for the man. But it is his pool to get out of not mine. That is where I struggle in enabling him to 'feel better' so he doesn't spew nastiness.
I have told him I will only communicate with him in writing or texts on R issues. Phone calls are only necessary when discussing the kids. (They have been about once a day)
He used D's phone to call me the other night since I have been letting his phone ring to voice mail. He called my house phone & I answered of course thinking it was D.
When I heard him, I asked what he needed. When he started into R talk I just let him talk.. and then used my cell to text his cell.. "Talking means on any phone not just yours, please email the R. talk, not a phone call." When I heard his phone 'text ring' I said "sounds like you have text message, I'm going to let you go now.. bye"
I asked D today to make sure she had her phone with her.. she can't find it... mmmmm wonder why.
I'm tired. Classes are already stressing me out along with S being gone & now H having his mini-melt down.
Thanks for listening. Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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