Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

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Hope3343,
I had friends follow her. I was lucky enough to have found out her address. Got pictures of her picking him up and making out and everything-yuck. Luckily the make out pictures didn't turn out but him picking her up an hugging her did. I exposed it to her fiance as well and some of the people at his work. I called all his close friends at church, all his brothers and mother, my family our Pastor everyone I thought would need to know. He told our kids and me on the same day. I truly think the kids need to know. But that's opinion, but why hide their infidelity? We are not the ones doing these things. The bubble and fantasy needs to break. He cannot have the best of both worlds. It will ruin your marriage in the end if you appease it(read that in Dr. Dobsons book). I think boundaries are important. Exposure needs to happen if it hasn't.

I think exposure is important as it busts up this fantasy world that they live in. This bubble and its not reality. I read on another thread at a different website and they say exposure is very important, to OW family, to your family to everyone. The pressure of reality makes them realize the truth.

So has he told you that there is another woman? Do you know for sure? Have you point blank asked him? I did on several occasions and finally my H confessed.
Anyone else chime in....