How to start from scratch in 12 Mos Separation ?

[mulesqb]

Singledad - Been following your sitch but haven't posted. My heart truly goes out to you. It really does. I can't imagine the hurt you are feeling right now, I'm scared to death I will find out how it feels.

BUT - from my perspective you are putting your D in her face as a reason to reconcile with you. Is that the message you really want to send her?? Don't you want her to come back out of love for you, not because of guilt??

Again - I can't imagine the pain you are feeling, I really can't so I can understand your emotions getting the best of you right now. But you have said your piece to her and are really trying to fix her when she feels she doesn't need any fixing. I did this and someone posted to me on my thread - do you think you look attractive right now?? My answer was a definite no. So please think about that before you keep hammering her. You are probably driving her farther and farther away right now and that means closer to him.

If you want her to see something, start working on yourself big time. Go off and cry your eyes out, do what you need to do to regroup and then start getting attractive again. I'm no expert but if I was you, I would go completely dark right now - you spoke your mind - now stop trying to control her, because she won't let you.

And listen to Bill - he's like Yoda.

I'm really sorry you're going through this.

Remember - Strength and Honor.