Still Supportive but very distant

[JWS]

hi daisy

Younseperation during ait sounds very normal. In fact that is how most people are. Very sad and clingy at first but then you have to learn to detach and move on. It's the only way to function. Most problems are when guys come home and the couple has a hard time learning to function together again. However that is the past and now all you can do is go forward on the footing you can.

If his training is going to be long then go with him. I don't need to tell you that will be hard on you but it is worn the effort if he would let you. Off my w let me I would commute the 250 miles from her place to my job. So if that's an option take it.
I wish it was easier for you but the truth is the life of an enlisted solider is about the worst for a family. That dose not mean it can't be done but nomatter what it is hard.




Dan. You sound much better. I am really digging the no snooping thing. It will lead to your own inner peace. You know man it's really about not giving your self the opperrunity to do it. It took me months of not listenig to Lost and Julia to finnaly get seperate phone plans and as soon as I could no longer see that instant relief.

Sleep with you kids or lock your keys in a safe with a timmer anything so that the temptation is not even there. Temptation is the absolut hardest thing to fight. Look at how many people in history and the bible have fallen to it at some point. We are all weak the strong ones don't sit in the garden staring at the forbidden fruit they simply avoid the garden all together.

Man I wish I knew why they could not be honest and say they want to screw around. "honey I promise I don't want to see anyone else". I get tired of hearing that when she is. So I just stop listenit and asking. If she still feels the need to lie then it's becase she is conflicted inside. So she can suffer with her lies not me. She has to live with herself I don't. I only worry that it is killing her already weak sense of self.

Your doing good Dan keep it up. And remember that unlike some of us you don't get the option of failing you have to be the best possible man you can be for those children. Forget you W for a while and make them the center of your universe.