Sorry Frank. That expressing our opinions about that certain poster inadvertantly caused your previous thread to be locked last night.
I wrote a scathing post about it that I never submitted because I decided to sleep on it.
This morning my opinion remains the same and that is this:
We were all better off before the moderator in question came down to micromanage us. We handled our own issues amongst ourselves. We helped each other up and knocked each other off the high horse when necessary. And we all got along just fine.
That was before earlier this year when sg started to make her presence known by attempting to make herself "one of us" while at the same time repeatedly misusing her authority as a moderator.
What I'd really like to see is an active moderator that actually offered something other than the occasional pat on the back or a swift lockdown when she deems us to be veering off the designated and dictated path.
The poster in question was allowed to repeatedly disrespect all of the people here that tried to help him. The most sg did was tell him to be nice and lock down a couple of his threads when she determined them to be out of hand.
He was allowed by this site to repeatedly discuss the verbal abuse OF his wife, express his wishes to physically abuse his wife, share past incidents in which he'd actually abused his wife physically, mentally and emotionally as well as to freely express the day to day mental and emotional abuse of his young children all without one attempt at intervention by a moderator or an actual REAL crisis counselor.
And on top of that, as if it's not bad enough, this site is now allowing him to post freely to others, to give advice to others, all without having earned his stripes, done his time in the trenches and grow in his own right proving that he actually has something to CONTRIBUTE to these boards.
I think it is disgusting that so long as he parrots DB methods, he is an acceptable person to post to other people in crisis.
It is true that this is a layman's board and none of us are professionals but the vast majority of us have been through the fire and actually know first hand, having experienced trial and error, what we're talking about.
That is why so many of us spent the time that we spent on that individuals thread. Not because we liked being mean to him at times, but because we've each had our own hard lessons learned and our own reality checks and we'd like to think that might allow us to actually help another person.
He steadfastly refused all help and in fact stated that he is not the one in his relationship that needs help.
Had the moderator(s) actually been concerned for that person's children and wife the right thing to have done CAN, in fact, be done. It is possible for an IP address to be used to narrow down the general location of a person. Further investigation could have revealed the location from which that individual posts. If there had been any real concern on the part of the moderators about that family, like the concern that was shown by other posters HERE for that family, steps could have been taken to have a real crisis counselor step in and help them.
Instead, all that has been done by the so-called powers that be is they've shut us up, shut threads down and now they sit idly back and promote, through their failure to act, a lunatic running his own wing in the asylum.
This board ain't what it used to be.
And it used to be much better.
Instead of enhancing it with her presence, sg has fostered anger, mistrust, a general feeling of unfairness and the questioning of the integrity of those that own and run this website.
In most places, when enough complaints are rendered, a person is removed from their position.
That's what needs to happen here.
Much to my disappointment, I have realized that this site is not "for" us. If you have a name that draws readers back, that's all they care about. There is no integrity anymore.
Since the beginning of 2008, this site has been on a downhill slide with repeated strife within our ranks.
9 times out of 10 I guarantee you sg was right in the middle of it in some way, shape or form.
Yet she continues to hold a position as a moderator.
That it inself shows the disrespect and lack of concern that MWD, or whomever she has left in charge, has for the real people that support her work; the people that recommend her books and share her wisdom with others.
If the powers that be really want to make a good business move regarding the boards at this time, removing sg would be the place to start.
Not shutting down and shutting up the longterm, tried and true posters.
Either properly manage us or leave us the hell alone.
But this micromanaging has gone beyond ridiculous.
