The driving around is usually around 0200 so it's time I should be spending sleeping so that I'm not such a grouch the next day. I'm very careful to keep my mouth shut about my wife's activities in front of the kids and basically the person that they know is a pretty good person.
Like I said, I had a couple of days of stupidity, but, I'm growing past the need to know where she is sleeping. The snooping is all really tied back to my need to know without a doubt that she is being unfaithful. I have evidence that anyone looking at would come to the same conclusions that I have. But, because I spent so many years listening to my wife tell me that what I knew was wrong wasn't wrong, I can't trust myself 100% on this. This is what has been driving the snooping. I've had plenty of evidence for weeks. But, when I suggested in early July that perhaps we should see other people, she told me that she didn't want to do that and wouldn't until a divorce or separation had been filed. She was already involved at that point. See, I can't trust her and I trained myself to believe her. But, I'm realizing that I need solid graphic proof of her infidelity. Since I choose not to attempt to gather the hard evidence that I need and since I've already gotten what I can get via my snooping, there is really no point in further snooping. No, driving around was just a momentary insanity.
