Snooping is definatly a no no and a big enemy. I have acess to my hubbys checking account so anytime I want I can log in and see what he has been spending and where. I don't look anymore as it is none of my business now that our finances are seperate but I used to look when we first split and it would taint the way I talked to him and caused huge problems even if I did not address it directly.
I think it will also cause the way you speak about your w in front of your kids to be colored as well, unintentionally of course, so be careful! Dangerous territory.
