Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[Trying2live]

I do love this thread. I feel such strength from talking with everyone and all the advice and tips. I love it!

My son is doing better. I keep encouraging him to keep talking so he doesn't bottle his emotions. We have therapy assessment on the 18th. He seems like he is looking forward to it. Its through the HMO at our doctors office and cool thing is they have just implemented solution based therapy like DB so my son wont be professionalized but they will give him some practical solutions to help him.

I'm not sure if any of you know this so I'll pass is on just in case. From a lot of what I read, for some crazy reason children blame themselves for these things. They accept the responsibility for the actions_isn't that horrible! So be sure to sit down with your children, no matter the age, and tell them that this has nothing to do with them, they did not cause this and its not their fault. You will probably need to tell them a few times and remind them on occasion. Hope3343 Does your daughter know about the OW?

Marisol, take comfort knowing that although you feel alone we are all thinking about you and with you. All I can say is time is on our side, and eventually things won't hurt as bad, at least that's what I'm told-sure hope they are right. My 19 year anniversary is in Dec. I'm dreading it. Sure wish I could take a trip that day but finances are an issue at this point.

Just got a book tonight I mentioned, Surviving An Affair by Dr. Willard Harley....really good book. You all would really like it.
G'night from Cali, leave you with this...."The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be only the beginning. " ~ Ivy Baker Priest