Daisy, JWS has the right of it, while I certainly understand where you are coming from. I'm fairly certain that we will end up divorced. But, I'm also pretty certain that we will end up better friends than we were before and therein lies my hope for a new relationship. When I first entered active duty, I had 4 months of training and I didn't know that my wife could have come and stayed in the Q with me. Instead, she went to stay with her Mom in Minneapolis and ended up depressed and then finding a guy friend to hang out with and we were nearly divorced before we had been married 6 months.
I wish you the best success because as you've pointed out, it is a tough road. (((Daisy)))